we had a baby in july. at the time we weren't together. now we have been hanging out a lot lately in the last 2 weeks. he says he really likes me and i really like him but he wants to take things slow before its official. the thing is we already have a baby together so it's not like we don't already know everything about each other. How do i make him want to be my boyfriend again?How do i make him fall in love with me again?
Unfortunately you can檛 make him want to be your boyfriend. Either he does or he doesn檛. Maybe you two should discuss it.How do i make him fall in love with me again?
Love is not something that you can make people do. Get out now while you can. You WILL be able to find someone that really loves you. Once you do, you will realize that it is not something that you really have to work at. Good luck
I agree with Bill Clinton. If you make him comfortable, he'll be comfortable. That's all there is to it. Guys are not hard to understand, but slow is not usually their speed unless they feel threatened.
In this situation he's probably right, just go back to it slow. He doesn't want to date yet because he's not sure if it's what he wants. If he says he really likes you then just go slow like he wants because it's going to come. Just wait for him to ask you back out. I'm sure he will.
Good Luck!
I think you have much bigger problems than getting him to be your boyfriend again.
Showing him respect by honoring his request is key. Since you guys have a little one together this in itself has a bridge that cannot be torn down. Having an open communication has always made the difference in the world. Do you recall what makes his heart beat? What turns his head? What makes him talk all night long? Ponder on the things which bought you two together from the beginning and ALWAYS, always be yourself. Honestly is key and when he sees you for whom you are, you guys should find grounds to move forward without you doing anything but being yourself. Does you help out with the baby? Changing the pampers, bath time, etc. When he does, complement him when, tell him that I am glad that you are apart of the little ones life and we are building a stronger foundation but don't push it. Be kind and allow the day to unfold and be there for him. If you wants to just talk for a few minutes, ok, if not longer, that's ok as well. Let him see he has your friendship first and for most but he also needs to keep in mind that you as well need support, honesty and an open relationship as well. Rent his favorite movie and enjoy your time together...when he feels that he isn't being pushed, he'll let him guards down and see that the relationship can work out if he is willing to work at it. I do hope that his friends aren't influencing him to keep his distance...you do have a little one together and it would be best for everyone involved that you guys give it your all. It takes hard work to make anything work. Even when you are in love, you have to work at making your relationship grow daily. Let know one tell you any difference. I have been happily married for 22 years and counting. We had to learn many things but our determination and love to make it work, kept us in the center. Love is the answer, regardless of the question. Patience, understanding and knowing when to walk away from anything is weaved into your relationship. He will see you and say to himself when he's alone, she is the one and our little angel reflects that, why not make it work out, I do desire to make our ';family'; do the best and by stepping up to his responsibilities will bring even more love into your relationship. Respect is key with guys...if they feel you are giving it, they will give in...stay firm and allow nature to take its course...
Just be a good woman to him. Be there for him. Put the ball in his court, he can take it or leave it.
Stop playing games, you guuys hsould be a family by now and if he can't deal with it. POOF be gone.
Just take things slow. Try to relearn each other. He could just be trying to get into the groove of things. Don't rush b/c it might push him away. Just let it flow.
stay firm and ask him firmly for the relationship. guys who are slow usually never get to the committment stage. so just be firm and get him in line
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