HOW DO I MAKE MYSELF LOVE HIM HELP!!!!?

To make things simple, I have a boyfriend that i only like as a friend. I cant explain why but dumping him is not an option. How do I make myself fall in love with him?HOW DO I MAKE MYSELF LOVE HIM HELP!!!!?
Funny but true the more you hang out with someone the more you start getting attached to that person (Yes you can brainwash yourself!) . Even if you can't stand him in the beginning. But I don't understand why you can't dump him?HOW DO I MAKE MYSELF LOVE HIM HELP!!!!?
I don't believe that one can make or force themselves to love anybody. Ethier you do or grow into it, or you simply don't. What's wrong with being friends? That's a form of love, platonic love.What interests me is you didn't mention how he feels and why exactly you feel 'dumping him' is an option.If he (or someone else) is pressuring you to be more than friends,and you simply don't want more than what you have now.Well, stand your ground and make it clear how you feel and what you want.If they give you any grief over it then perhaps it's time to realise these people aren't being your friends, or hold your welfare in your best interests. If you feel guilty for your feelings, don't.How you feel is simply how you feel.Mabe over time this friendship will grow into something more, mabe it won't.Mabe you aren't attracted to him or theres other issues holding you back,mabe what you think what you should feel isn't in fact what love is, or what you recognise as love? I know I just made that hopelessly complicated.Another way of putting it is: my own views of what love is and what I personally experienced with the guys in my life changed through out my life.And with each person I learned more, grew,slipped backward,etc.Sometimes doing a total reversal.There's guys that in retrospect I realised I did love very deeply but never recognised it as love at the time.Because I was caught up in the belief of what I assumed love should be/was.Like being in love,feeling intensely attracted, can't sleep kind of love.That kind of love feels wonderful and doesn't seem to last very long.Sometimes it's the quiet kind,the getting to know the other person,respect,trust, sharing a history,etc. Sometimes it's the second kind that simply sneaks up on you and suddenly you realise what that person really means to you,what the relationship really means,etc.But forcing it? Nope.You can't force love,you have to allow it to happen in it's own time.Hope this helps.
there is Always a Choice


it might not be the choice we want but still it a choices


we don't have to we choose to.


you want to hold on to someone you don't love just to find out later you have to break up because you don't love him and might fall for another in the future and cause more hurt than necessary?


how fair is it to him?


if you really cared you would just be friend and let someone who can love him do it.
If you simply don't love him... then don't make things hard on you and/or him. Just tell him the TRUTH about your feelings. Being with someone you don't like is not good.





And if you don't want to break up with him its your choice....


you can't make yourself fall in love with him... it's like forcing yourself to do something you really do not wish to do.





If it helps, you can wait til maybe he does something you don't think someone will ever do for you... and maybe it will hit straight to your heart... and hopefully you start loving him, again it's no magic stuff from one day to another...
you can't really make yourself fall in love with someone, it just happens. You can't really control the way you feel. If you could maybe spend more time with him or put aside his faults then maybe you might start to like him. I don't understand why breaking up with him is not an option, but if you can't then i guess you can't. Good luck with this!
the truth is you can't make yourself love someone when your heart just is not in it. i know you said dumping him is not an option but maybe you should rethink things. in the end you are going to either end up hurting yourself or him or both, i really hope things work out for you.
HOw did u even get started then? U practically liked him at first, then u gradually fade? If thats the case, then u better take care of your mental network......As in, look for the old stuff that relight your spark.And look for the things to do, what was it that kept u attracted to him in the beginning? Its just to rekindle the old flame....To add up to that, remember how he got through things just to come to u.HOw u get through things just to be together.Remember the nights, the time spent together.Remember how much u love each other.





BUT, if u are telling me, that u don't love him at all, all this time.....then, I guess there would be nothing to say.......but a break.


But make sure u think things through this time. ANd u have got nothing to lose, so why not try to rekindle the flame and if u can;t.,......well , think properly, make sure u won't regret when u break.....


God bless.


Cheers.


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Can I ask why dumping him isn't an option? Just curious!


As everyone's said, you can't make yourself fall in love. You can try, but in the long run it's not gonna work.


Good luck


xo
You do not just fall in love with one.





Yet, as long as you're stuck with him just enjoy your self and don't get hung over with all the little things in life. Soon, you'll learn to like him.





Also, remember, you don't have to love someone to date them...
I would tell him how you feel and let it go from there. Tell him that you love having him in your life, you're just not in love with him. It sucks, and you don't want to hurt him, but stringing him along, thinking there's more, will only hurt him worse.
You cannot make yourself love him. If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be. I do not know your specific situation, but breaking it up with him is the best bet, no matter what. Just tell him the truth about how you feel and let him down easy.
There is the problem you can't make yourself fall in love is it what it is. You only will a hurt a person more by being with them when the feelings aren't there.
that's impossible u cant change the way u feel..


what u can do is just accept him... and u will just have to look at his good side all the time and concentrate so much on that.....maybe u will learn to appreciate him but you will never love him... coz live can never be forced...
you can't force yourself to love him.


why is dumping him not an option?


if you're not going to be happy, there's little point in being in the relationship.
You can't make yourself fall in love with him. If you don't love him, tell him and find someone else who you can honestly say you love.
You can't MAKE yourself fall in love with him. That would no be fun at all. And you shouldn't pretend that are you either because that would hurt him more later then now.
you can make your self it comes naturally.





im thinking you are alredy inlove with him you jst haven;t realised it. (look deep with in yourself to find the answers)
You cannot make yourself fall in love with someone. There shouldn't be any reason you cannot dump him unless you are using him. If you are using him then you don't deserve him.
Falling in love with someone should be a natural thing. Otherwise, if you're making yourself fall in love with him, it's not real..
You can not make yourself fall in love with anyone, it's uncontrollable.
Impossible. It can't be done. Maybe at best since you only like him as a friend you'll love him like a brother but breaking up would still be for the best sorry.....
Forcing yourself to love someone will only end bad. If you see him as a friend, then be his friend. But then again love does grow. Just give it time.
You can't make yourself love someone...





Questions like these make me laugh.
you really cant make your self fall in love with someone automatically its just stronger feelings you have for someone.
Thats unfair on him, stop being slefish
tell him you only want to be friends. tell him it doesn't feel right being together
snort coke off his J@hnson
you have problems
lol! u cant make urself love sum1.....why's dumping him not an option, its clearly not healthy whatever the reason!