How do I deal with my father in law and brother in law?

How do I deal with my father in law and brother in law?



My father in law is of the Christian faith and so am I

but the hole time I was dating my wife he would tell her

things like I'm not the man that god ment for her to

be with and he knows this because God told him so

so one night he ask her to take a ride with him and

i couldn't come along he said so they went off for about 3 hours

when she came back to me she told me to go home because she couldn't

marrey me because off of things that her dad had told her about me

but he didn't know me at all I had never seen the man more then and few hours

at that time in my life so how could he say all these bad things

baout me when he didn't even know me at so i was from la and my wife was from ky

she told me to go. i was very upset I felt that i did nothing wrong other then falling in love

with her.but when i told her if i go i don't want so much as a letter or a phone call from you. then she started

crying and told me she was only do what her that family wanted her to do because her dad had

Manipulate in to thinking that god would turn his back on her if she married me because it's not what god

wanted for her.he would keep telling her that she had a better destiny and if married she would be doomed if she married

and evertime we would have a special moments like our first kiss or first dance they would kill the moment by calling her

up and telling all these things about god they had her under so much confusion in fact to days befor we got married my brother in law sent her a text message that said give me one more shot to talk you out of it.marrying this guy.

but they didn't know we were getting married we just ran off and did it and me and her are not kids are anything like that

I am 26 and she 27 at the time...but they act like I should be begging them for forgiveness becuse we ran off and got married and didn't tell anyone and it makes me just want to hit her father mean i never would but thats the way i feel. i think my wife sometimes thinks that our marriage is doom because of all she had let her family put me threw but i still

love her very much she fears as we are getting ready to have kids that they will try to kill this special time for me as

well..i just trying to know what i should do with thses people. how can i ever trust them around my kids when i know what they have told my wife?



銆€How do I deal with my father in law and brother in law?
you married into ONE CRAZY FAMILY.



if she is stupid enough to think that GOD actually talks to her dad and that loving GOD would doom anyone or anything then you should take her to therapy or something. ( a priest might work too )



move to another city or something. get away from crazy talkHow do I deal with my father in law and brother in law?
Hmmm the most important thing is to reassure your wife. This has to be done whether you have kids or not. I think first you need to speak to a priest and explain your problem. Then you can speak the three of you and he can reassure her that god does not think your marriage is doomed etc. Finally, her father also needs to speak to a priest (preferably the same one) and/or a mental health expert (but that's another story).



The thing is, your faith should be bringing you closer to each other, not be used as a tool to destroy your lives. I don't know how religious you are, or how things work with the church where you live, but it's obviously very important for your wife, this is why I suggest you try to show her how actually god wants her to be married and happy. It's your wife you care about, not your father in law.



Finally, hard as it may be, control your temper. Just think that you want to prove to your wife how good you are for her, not that you are a bad person who wants to cut her off from her family. But at the same time, if you can reassure her and she can trust you, she will not listen to them anymore, and your kids will be happy regardless of what in-laws say. Not to mention that most in-laws soften when grandkids arrive :)



you also don't mention if you ever tried to respectfully talk to her father and ask him what bothers him about you. maybe you could convince him as well, especially if a priest also supports you.



good luck with everything!